Then there's the morning a visitor presumes Girlawhirl's the assistant, and her assistant (a guy) is the boss. It just rankles. Okay, that sales rep's card may go right into the shredder (she has found a good shredding session can help: it's noisy, and something about watching all that paper shredded to bits is cathartic) but Girlawhirl would rather learn to let her frustrations go. So in honor of National Let It Go Day, she checked in with Dr. Lauren Thibodeau for some great ‘let-it-go' tips:

• Breathe it out. A classic because it works. Breathe in slowly. Try to expand your lungs to the point where you can feel your diaphragm, at the lower edge of your ribs, moving. As you breathe in, focusing on a positive thought such as, "I breathe in calm, peaceful energy. I am compassionate and loving." On the long, slow, even exhale focus on a thought such as, "I release all tension, stress, anxiety and frustration. I hold nothing that causes me discomfort or unease." Create your own focusing thoughts.

• Talk it out. If you've got a friend who's a good listener, give her a call. So that you don't take advantage of her willingness to listen to the occasional kvetch, set a timer for three minutes. Then thank her, promise her a latte and tell her you'll return the favor when she needs to talk it out. This isn't a time to ask for advice—just talk it out, stream of consciousness style. If it's something that's really challenging, find a psychotherapist to help you get at the roots of why you're struggling with it.

• Massage it out. Aaaahhhh... just thinking of a good massage is relaxing, so imagine how great the real thing will make you feel. Book a massage or other stress-relieving body-based treatment you enjoy. We all tend to hold stress in our bodies, so call that new spa you've been thinking about checking out—it's pedicure season, after all.

• Toss it out. Write out your frustrations on a blank sheet of paper (colorful language and all). Draw pictures. Use colored pens, markers or paints. Then crumple it all up and toss it away, shred it, or set it on fire (carefully of course) in a fireproof bowl. Make a ceremony out of this process. Have your friends join you in a 'burning bowl' ritual in which everyone writes down things they wish to release. Then one at a time, place them into a burning bowl, fireplace or outdoor fire pit. Say, "I release X from my life, and am grateful for the lessons learned" or something similar.

• Walk it out. Book some time on the treadmill or make time for a long, fast-paced walk through the park. It's well known that activity helps reduce stress and anxiety. Yoga, dance, Pilates, weightlifting or any other solitary physical activity will help you let it go. Use that gym membership you paid for!

• Chant it out. One of Girlawhirl's Super Pals uses a little rhyme she created that goes like this: "Release, let go, let the healing vibes flow." It's easy to repeat over and over, which is what her friend does while she walks it out. It reduces anxiety, too. You may find other chants, particularly those with uplifting overtones or positive, spiritual messages work, too. Or, rewrite the lyrics to a favorite song with your own version and sing it out. The 'silent scream' also works. Roll up all the windows in your car, turn up the music, and scream away.

It's all about taking a moment to get some perspective. Because perspective helps: ask yourself, is it really that bad? In the grand scheme of things, probably not.

Dr. Lauren Thibodeau is author of Natural-Born Intuition: How to Awaken & Develop Your Inner Wisdom. A consultant and life coach specializing in intuition, creativity and out-of-the-box thinking, her website is DrLauren.com